This blog is inspired by my Lord and savior, Jesus Christ and everything he has taught me and also the hottest song that keeps ringing in my head right now…..Ugrade U by the lovely Beyonce!

Anyways, I will be referencing this song and also the WORD of God, so please excuse my “ghetto”ness if you can’t appreciate the combination.

As women, we must know our worth and ACT LIKE IT, especially when it comes to men. We have all been played or mistreated or even chased an undeserving fool.  No worries, mistakes serve a purpose in all of our lives.  So as we grow in wisdom, we can trust that the Lord is fully capable of finding us a mate who will be true and know how to honor us as women.  “She is worth far more than rubies.  Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value” Proverbs 31:10-11  Lacking NOTHING of value my sisters!  That is so encouraging!  God loves us as he loved the church.  We should be treated by men according to our value to God as a child created in His image.  We have an essence that should be honored and protected.  Eph 5:25-33.  We are so COMPLETE in Him!  That alone ignites a fire in me and gives me such confidence that I know that God is going to bless me with an amazing man to be my husband and also that I will be quite the upgrade for him also.

As Beyonce puts it so passionately…

“I hear you be the block, but I’m the light that keeps the streets on”

“Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished” Luke 1:45. My trust in the Lord is so rich. This is why my light shines. Everything good in me comes from Jesus! Straight up! If God  uses me to lift others, to be encouraging, forgiving, gracious, nurturing….my life serves an awesome purpose and I will always have joy!

“I’m known to walk alone, but I’m alone for a reason” God has given me discernment over the years. He knows His plans for me and I simply seek His will. Ultimately, He is the driving force in all my decisions. Sometimes, when I am tempted or weak, I will guard my heart and  “walk” purely and make myself one with Christ.

“Come harder, this won’t be easy. Don’t doubt yourself, trust me you need me. This aint no shoulder with a chip or an ego”

This is to the men….step up to the plate. When you’ve found the woman that God is trying to bless you with, don’t doubt His plans for you. Just pray for the courage to be her hero.

“You need a real woman in your life, taking care of home and still fly”

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” Proverbs 18:22. God intended for us women to be man’s helpmate.  We are here to support them and lift them up. We must complement our men in their weakness and respect them. Men need us, deeply! God made it that way. That is an awesome responsibility, not to be taken lightly. We must honor our husbands and love them fully. They won’t want to admit it, but they’re delicate too and we have the power to crush them. Let’s not. Oh and let’s remember to stay in shape as it is important to keep the flames burning, esp when married. Let’s not make it easy for them to lust outside of the marriage. As sinners, we are weak, but we must take responsibility and show that we care about these weaknesses by doing what IS in our control. Stay true to fitness.

“I can do for you what Martin did for the people, ran by the man but the women keep the tempo, its very seldom that you’re blessed to find your equal, still play my part and let you take the lead role, believe me. I’ll FOLLOW, this could be easy! I’ll be the help whenever you need me. I see your hustle with my hustle, I can keep you focused on your focus, I can feed you”

God has taught us that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. 1 Cor 11:3. If the man is fulfilling his role to love me as Christ loved the church, he’ll be unselfishly seeking my best.  His expectations will be reasonable and I will trust him.  This was a huge relief for me to come to this understanding.  I have always been an aggressive, strong and independent woman.  But deep down, I crave a man that I can follow with the security and peace that his final authority is also the God I love so much.  Men, if we are controlling….it is because we do not trust you. Doesn’t make it right, but it is what it is….

“It’s that little glimpse of light that makes a diamond really shine, and you already is a star, but unless you’re flawless, then your dynasty aint complete without a chief like me!”

We must allow our God given gifts to surface and play its role in our relationships. Our gifts can bring incredible gifts to a marriage.  So ladies, do not suppress your essence.  Be you and be vibrant in the Lord Jesus!

“Partner, let me upgrade you!”

Keep your heads up ladies, let God lead you to your prince and always know that you will be the upgrade in his life that makes it all GOOD!  We’re gems in the making!

Just my take on things at this time in my life…..

God Bless you!

Tanji